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"One word frees us from
the weight and pain of life; that word
is love."
-Sophocles
Let’s talk about romantic love since
this month is Valentine’s day.
What is true
love?
True love is present when
the beloved shares these values:
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The Capacity and Desire
to be kind.
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The Capacity and Desire
to bring joy.
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The Capacity and Desire
to remove suffering.
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The Capacity and Desire
to celebrate the greatest potential in
the other.
Fortunate are the couple
who want that which truly serves the
highest potential for growth in the
other. When two look in the same
direction, both wanting growth and the
highest expression of love, then
anything is possible, a life of bliss,
joy and fulfillment.
Of course that doesn’t
mean there will not be problems or
issues, but when the core values are in
alignment, then personal growth and true
love is possible. Celebrating the
highest potential in the other may at
times involve letting them go
Holding another captive
and wishing or attempting to control
their behavior is truly the antithesis
of love, and is an expression of fear.
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"When you are aware
that you are the force that is
Life, anything is possible.
Miracles happen all the time,
because those miracles are
performed by the heart. The heart
is in direct communion with the
human soul, and when the heart
speaks, even with the resistance
of the head, something inside you
changes; your heart opens another
heart, and true love is possible."
-Don
Miguel Ruiz |
We NEED To Feel LOVE
"Our deepest need is for
the joy that comes with loving and being
loved, with knowing we are of genuine
use to others." -Eknath Easwaran
When you have peace,
freedom and love WITHIN, then you will
handle any circumstance in your life. You
will realize that
Love
is who you are, it is your essence.
It is NOT dependent upon another person,
his or her reaction, choice, or
behavior.
Sadly at times a partner
chooses not to be loving, and rather
than expressing the 4 elements of
love
mentioned above, they
bring the opposite into a relationship.
If that person refuses to be open to
growth and change, then it is often best
for all concerned to release the
relationship. We are not here to suffer;
there is enough suffering around without
creating it in our personal lives.
What we can control is
the development of compassion, joy,
understanding, freedom and
LOVE
in ourselves, then we have done our part
in the relationship.
Thich Nhat Hanh teaches
the simple wisdom of maintaining a
loving relationship. It is simple and
beautiful, and if we practice this with
each other daily,
love
will flourish. It goes like this:
Say to your
beloved every day in these words or in
your own words:
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“Darling, I am here for
you.”
(Be Present)
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“Darling, I know you
are there, And I am very happy”
(Show appreciation and
joy in the presence of your beloved)
And when needed, yet
hopefully not too often, say:
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“Darling, I know you
suffer, and that is why I am here for
you.”
(Show compassion and
the ability to relieve suffering in
the other)
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“Darling, I suffer,
please help.”
(Let go of pride and be
willing to share your feelings and ask
for what you need)
It is difficult to
practice
true love
if we ourselves are full of anger, worry
and fear. So in order to
love deeply
and well, we have a responsibility to
take care of ourselves first.
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"When mystics use
the word love, they use it very
carefully -- in the deeply
spiritual sense, where to love is
to know; to love is to act. If you
really love, from the depths of
your Consciousness, that love
gives you a native wisdom. You
perceive the needs of others
intuitively and clearly, with
detachment from any personal
desires; and you know how to act
creatively to meet those needs,
dexterously surmounting any
obstacle that comes in the way.
Such is the immense, driving power
of love."
-Eknath
Easwara |
A
Poet without Love is a physical and
metaphysical impossibility.
-Thomas
Carlyle, Essays--Burns
I am grateful for the
influence of Don Miguel Ruiz, Thich Nhat Hanh, Abraham
Maslow, and Victor Frankel for their
seminal work about the glory of
LOVE.
I offer you peace. I
offer you love. I offer you friendship.
I see your beauty. I hear your need. I
feel your feelings. My wisdom flows from
the Highest Source. I salute that Source
in you. Let us work together for unity
and love.
-Mahatma Gandhi.
I always welcome your
questions and will happily post the
answers in the “Ask
Ellen” section of my website, yet
will answer privately if you so
specify.
I wish you the best of
life… abundance, health, prosperity,
joy, peace and mostly
love.
Imagining
Your Success,
Ellen Chernoff Simon
Email:
ellen@imadulation.com
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